The Masculine & The Feminine. The Yin & The Yang. The Shiva & The Shakti.

Preface-

First and Foremost, This write-up is for the girl who is still on the lookout for the man of her dreams! 🙂 And it is for the people who are straight in their sexual orientation and who are not extremists in any way!

It is for the people who believe that they would like to have a person from the opposite gender in their lives as a companion, a friend, a lover and a life partner (in its real essence!) People who believe that they do not need a romantic relationship, a life partnership with a person from the opposite gender, this write up is not for them, Please excuse!

The Masculine & Feminine. The Yin & The Yang. The Shiva & The Shakti.

It must be so damn difficult to exist as a sweet and non-extremist feminine woman in this pathetic male dominated chauvinistic society that we live in. And to top that, continuing to have faith and belief that, ‘still’, there are good men out there and you would find the man of your dreams, wow! that calls for a salute to the heights of positive thinking! 😉 😀 😀

On a serious note, I think that most ‘straight’ girls would want a guy in her life, as a partner,who can be called a GOOD MAN, a REAL MAN! And these days, most single girls complain about not coming across any Real-Good Men !!!!

So first of all lets figure out, what does a ‘Real-Good Man’ comprise of?

I guess,

• it would be a man who is strong but sensitive too, practical yet emotional too and deep but childish too.
• A man who is intense and passionate and is also funny and humorous.
• A man who can protect his woman in every way, be it physically or emotionally and does that till his last living breath.
• A man who is Loyal and Transparent.
• A man who wishes to take care of his and her parents and siblings too.
• A man who would support her during her times of crisis.
• A man who would take care of her during times of health and sickness too.
• A man who is strong enough to atleast try to help the weak and needy around him.
• A man who is comfortable in his own shoes and hence, as a by product, can respect and adore his woman’s individuality and strengths.
• A man who can overlook her shortcomings but yet at the same time help her overcome them.
• A man who understands his rights and responsibilities too and fulfills them to the best of his ability.
• A man who wishes to help and support his lady in achieving her dreams.
• A man who cherishes and pampers his lady.
• And most importantly, A man who loves his lady from the bottom-est cores of his heart and soul!!!

Yup, I guess, a man having such attributes could be called a ‘REAL’ man. Let us name this guy Mr. REAL-GOOD!
Well…..there might be many more qualities attached to Mr. REAL-GOOD, But I guess that the above mentioned ones, more or less, gives a fairly complete picture of a guy who has grown into a GOOD MAN, a REAL MAN. Wouldn’t you agree? 🙂

Now…..the next important factor to ponder over is that what would be the qualities in a girl that would attract the kind of a guy I described above? What would bring such a man in your life and make him stay back forever? I am guessing that it would be safe to say that a Mr. REAL-GOOD would be attracted to a girl who also has the essence and qualities that makes her a Ms. REAL-GOOD.

Funnily, The irony of the ongoing situation today is that many of the girls who dream to have a Mr. REAL-GOOD in their lives have themselves started to forget, or forgotten already, what it is to be a Ms. REAL-GOOD. Over a period of time, after a lot of observation and experiences, I have realized that the qualities and personality traits that would comprise a Ms. REAL-GOOD woman is fading away slowly and steadily in our society.
Just as finding a Mr. REAL-GOOD might seem like a rare phenomenon, SIMILARLY, it is an equally rare occurrence to come across a Ms. REAL-GOOD! A lot of women have developed or are developing personality traits that are masculine, Qualities that are repulsive and a turn off to the kind of men that they are looking out for!! And then the same women keep wondering why don’t they attract the man of their dreams? funny, isn’t it?? 🙂

Would a honey bee get attracted to a flower, if the flower lacked honey??!! 🙂
When I use the words Masculine or Feminine, I don’t mean it in a Male Chauvinist way. Masculinity and femininity is not about gender or roles a person “COMPULSORILY HAS HAD TO” play in life or the person’s physical traits. It’s about a person’s base personality, base nature.
It is about the dominant energy in you!

Every male should dominantly have masculine energy in himself with a touch of feminine energy. And similarly, every female should primarily have feminine energy with a dash of masculinity. This was the way nature designed us humans. Atleast, intended us to be!

It is like one of the many theories attached to the “Yin-Yang”, wherein it is described as an entity in which the individual entities of masculinity and femininity entwine into each other. They fit perfectly and complement each other while they have a pinch of the opposite one at the center core in themselves. Its beautiful! 

And today, people are forgetting this basic fact. 

Please know, whatever I am saying here is not related to gender equality in any which way. I totally support gender equality and that too not only with respect to the male and female genders but every other known gender too. I am talking about the “chosen” ways of life, personality traits and the base nature in a person.

In context to the male and female genders, I believe women are, in many ways, much stronger than men. Every sane and non egoistic man who has seen a bit of life would definitely agree with me!
But the point I am trying to make here is that the essence of being the stronger gender is connected to the women’s feminine attributes itself. 

I do not blame the women for this ongoing disastrous change in them. Our society in general and all the male chauvinist pigs out there are to be blamed! Centuries of physical and mental abuse of women has lead to this ongoing worrisome change. Women have seen other women suffer. They have seen their mothers or sisters or girlfriends or neighbors or some other woman in their life endure suffering at the hands of our society and the “not real” BAD men. And the ongoing transformation in many women is a repulsion and reaction to such bad happenings. The women who are loosing their feminine energy believe that they need to protect themselves from such horrible men/society. And hence they start developing more masculine energies. I can empathize with this mindset but I would also like to say that, “Hey girl, please believe this that all men are not bad! REAL MEN are surely not! If you or any of your near one has been abused physically, mentally or emotionally by a man, please know that the abuser was not a “Real Man”. Because a real man would protect his women no matter what, so the question of he himself hurting them does not arise.”
I completely believe that a man who hurts or harms a Ms. REAL-GOOD is not worthy at all of being called a man itself!

And today, the negatively biased mindsets of men & women against each other is leading to the other side of the coin becoming highly visible. The other side being that many women are also abusing “Good” men physically and emotionally. Maybe it is due to themselves having been victims of torture or having grown up in an environment where they saw other women being abused. Maybe its because of some other reason. Whatsoever be the reason, today the fact is that “good” men are also becoming victims of physical, mental or emotional abuse at the hands of “bad women”.

And now, it is turning into a vicious circle.

So it is high time that this vicious circle is broken and things start going back to its originally intended forms. Men need to “understand” what it is to be a Mr. REAL-GOOD and women need to “recall” the essence of being a Ms. REAL-GOOD.

I would like to say to all the girls out there that you definitely shouldn’t be naive but also please don’t be negatively biased against all men. Be the woman of a ‘real man’s’ dreams and your dream man would just be a stone’s throw away from you. Remember your younger years of innocence and you would recall that instinctively you always cared, helped heal and, most importantly, nourished with love, the souls of those in need of it around you. That was your instinct and not something taught to you.
And my dear girl, out of many others, that is one of the most important aspect of your strength and an attribute of being a Ms. REAL-GOOD woman! That is what makes you the stronger gender. Of course, just as I described a Mr. REAL-GOOD man, there are many qualities that I could point out that would comprise a Ms. REAL-GOOD woman too, but I don’t think pointing out is required because every female already has it in her, she just needs to rekindle it! 🙂

So all you amazing women out there, rekindle that amazingness in you! Tend to your feminine side. And I promise you that when you shall come across a Mr. REAL-GOOD, not only would he get attracted to you but he would also appreciate you, love you like crazy, caress you, respect you, protect this femininity in you and he would pamper it to no bounds!

As mentioned in Hindu Theories, in the way that “Shiva” (being the masculine energy) and “Shakti” (being the feminine energy) are incomplete without each other, similarly Men and Women are incomplete without each other. “Shiva”, individually, never thinks of becoming “Shakti” and neither does “Shakti”, individually, think of becoming ‘Shiva”. They both are extremely beautiful and powerful in their own individuality. But yet they get attracted to each other because although complete individually, they both are still incomplete without each other. They feel the “need” for each other. And the very reason for this attraction is because “Shiva” continued to remain “Shiva” and “Shakti” continued to remain “Shakti”. And after attraction, they desire to become ONE. They “HAVE” to become ONE. Becoming ONE is an obvious result, the smoothest outcome and a sheer by-product! And when “Shiva” and “Shakti” become one, they become a new “being” altogether! That unison is magical and can accomplish anything and everything! And this wouldn’t have happened if Shiva or Shakti, either of them had tried to individually convert into the other 🙂

So let the Feminine energy in you dominate your existence my dear girl, that’s what nature intended. Become the ‘Shakti’ that every Shiva needs and then just sit back, relax and experience the magic of that power in you!
And, sooner than you expect, you wold watch a Shiva walk into your life and stay back forever! 🙂
May God Bless You.
Peace.
-Vishrut
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